The problem is that in many Indian families, many may still believe love comes after marriage.This is of course due to the arranged marriage which is prevalent among many segments of Indian society regardless of geography.Through the last fifteen years of being involved in the Indian community and interacting with many non-Indian, Western,and white women who struggle with relationships and commitments with their Indian boyfriends, I share the top three mistakes that most of these women make while trying to overcome the challenges of acceptance from their Indian boyfriend or to-be's family.Many Americans hold an ideal that regardless of social standing, culture, economic status, educational background and religion, love will overcome all these problems and make everything ‘ok.’ This can be true if and only if the couple have extensive discussions before marriage about expectations after marriage and into the long term, such as both partners’ career aspirations, family planning, traditions, values, choosing the place to live among many other variables., Indian daters are busy embracing entrancing exams for first dates more difficult than Harvard. No question seems to be off limit, whether it’s past relationships, how clean your house is or how many times a day you call your mummy. (It was an A minus if you are curious.)Where do you see this going? To many Westerners, the statement “I love you” often stands for a long-term commitment.
Now this is all well and good while you’re growing up, but then you get older and start watching American rom-coms.
He felt the same way and for a few weeks we dated, spending every possible moment together getting to know each other.
In the end, I don’t know what will happen with us and if we have a future because we live very far away from each other – but two interesting things happened while dating an Indian man for the second time since moving to Bangalore that have really made me stop and think … First, it was great to realise that not all Indian men are afraid to be with a white, divorced women for fear of what their parents will say.
But in the states, Indians seemingly went to the Michael Scott School of Fashion Design.
Back in the motherland, we have these amazing saris for women and over the top men’s clothes.